posted in Child Custody
on Monday, September 3, 2012.
Children bear the emotional brunt when a marriage ends. Their best interests need to be kept in mind as the parents decide how to coordinate sharing of responsibilities. While it is to the benefit of everyone involved if the parents can make these decisions peacefully, Connecticut mediation lawyers are particularly adept at helping in such matters.
Setting up the Parenting Schedule
Children need structure. After a divorce they especially need to know exactly when they will be with which parent. This provides them reassurance that both will remain in their lives. It also helps them adjust to their new living situation.
A poorly organized schedule will only cause distress for the children. While it may work for the parents to pass the children back and forth with no set structure, it doesn’t work for the children. Connecticut mediation lawyers can help develop a schedule that works for both parents and children. It is vital that once this schedule is put together, both parents abide by it.
The parents should put together a calendar. Highlight mom’s and dad’s times with the children with different colors. Make copies of the calendar. Each child may want his/her own copy. However, keep a copy on the refrigerator in each household. This gives a sense of uniformity and structure to the child.
Establishing Emergency Contact
Now is the time to determine who will be the contact person if the child is hurt or becomes ill at school. This job should not be relegated to the mother simply out of tradition. Instead, it should go to the one who will experience the least economic impact, and whose work is better suited to dealing with emergencies.
The mother, for instance, may be a surgeon; it would be unlikely that she could leave her work at a moment’s notice. One parent may be salaried and the other hourly; in that case, the salaried person may experience less of a financial burden in taking time off than the hourly worker.