Divorce is never easy, and the emotional toll it can take on the children of divorce can be devastating. Children of divorce often have little control or input into the decisions that are being made by the parents, and often, the couple’s problems overshadow the anxiety and turmoil the children experience when their parents are going through a divorce. There are many reasons why keeping child custody battles out of the courts is beneficial.
First of all, in a court proceeding over child custody issues, the decisions about the children’s daily living circumstances, where they live, who they live with, and when they spend time with each parent could be decided by a judge. This process takes the entire decision out of the child’s control. Therefore, even if a judge makes a logical and well-reasoned decision about the child’s living arrangements, the child may be hurt and discouraged that she is simply being told where she has to live and when. This outcome can cause further disruption and upset for the child, who is already going through an emotional process.
Second, the child may have to appear in court to testify against both of the parents. The parents may be thinking that winning in a custody battle will punish their spouse; however, the emotional exhaustion of a child experiencing this could be a lifelong, painful memory.
Therefore, it is incredibly important for parents getting divorced to be extremely mindful of the children’s experience and to make sure that custody arguments are not being fought simply to prove a point.
There are also many different kinds of custody decisions and arrangements that need to be worked out prior to a divorce is finalized. The following circumstances need to be determined for custody, visitation, and financial decisions regarding the children so that the divorce can be finalized:
- Where is the child going to live?
- Who is in charge of the child’s health insurance?
- Who is in charge of making medical decisions for the child?
- Where will the child live?
- Where will the child go to school?
- How are the financial responsibilities taken care of for the child?
- Who takes the child to soccer practice (or any other activities)?
- Who picks them up?
Contact a Connecticut Custody Attorney for Help
Keeping all of these types of decisions out of court will also save costs during a divorce. The Connecticut attorneys at The Law Offices of Piazza, Simmons & Grant are ready to answer all of your questions and regularly assist clients with all aspects of a divorce. They are focused on getting the right results instead of an hourly rate. The attorneys of The Law Offices of Piazza, Simmons & Grant are recognized as among the top 50 law firms in Connecticut and by New York Magazine as one of the best firms in the New York area. Contact the office online or by calling 203-348-2465.